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Dear Fear (AKA Doubt/Insecurity/Shame),
You have gone by many names over the years, and no matter what you chose to be called, I took you in. You were clever, promising me "security" and "safety" if I only listened to you. Well, I did listen, but I have finally realized the difference between "playing it safe" and and "preservation of self." While it's true that sometimes your whispers helped me out in dangerous situations, for the most part, you abused your powers and I realize now the extent of your lies. You have exerted your will over me for far too long and, clearly, this is not a reciprocal relationship...I gave you everything, with nothing in return. I'm at a point in my life where I am tired of trying to please you. It is is exhausting trying to figure out which part of you I am dealing with and also, I’m tired of stroking your ego, making you feel so important at my own expense. If there is one thing in this world that I have come to HATE, it is how I shrink in your presence. If you really loved me, wanted me to feel safe and secure, you would support my growth, my expansion, my light. And you have never acknowledged me, THE REAL ME, and because you have never believed in me all this time, despite the fact I have given you my undivided attention and support over the years--when it was me who all this time LISTENED to you!--Well, you need to know that I have packed your bags and you are not welcome here anymore. I am breaking up with you. FOREVER!
You know how to do this! it is simply a matter of remembering the process. Before you incarnated into this physical realm/reality, your soul went through the very same process in which YOU obvserved every single possible outcome for this lifetime, and (and here's the really cool thing about this) because your soul was comfortable with each and every possible outcome, you can rest easy that there are no wrong choices. whatever you choose to do is the correct choice. so then, why do we have the possibilities if there are no wrong choices? because part of your purpose is to expand/learn/grow...and you do this through feeling into your choices. So, using the power of creative imagination it's time to get to feeling, already!
1) Breath and connect to your heart center--the source of your life's eternal truth.
2) As you make that connection, do so with the intention of simply observing your current situation. Call up the details--just the facts--and reserve any judgement for later.
3) As you think about the situation at hand, begin to visualize the possible outcomes. Notice how you are feeling as you ponder each choice. What are your emotions like. What physical sensations are you noticing? Does this choice make you feel good or out of sorts? Observe how energized (or not) you feel in the moment of making the choice and then, how you feel the next day...in two years from now...ten years and so on? Once you've felt the truth of that choice, move on to the next path and feel out that possibility--notice again how you feel as you step out in this direction, what emotions come up today? Tomorrow? Next year? How does it make your body feel? Your mind?
4) As you navigate through this path of your eternal truth, you will notice that one pathway feels more in alignment than all the others. If you are not noticing this, it simply means you have not felt fully into the wide and expansive wholehearted truth of your being. Breathe here and return your awareness to the situation at hand and ask yourself, "what else is possible?"
5) Once you FEEL your Truth, follow that energy. You have made your choice, and now the best thing you can do is to *go with that flow* and let your actions line up with that energy to watch your heartfelt-intentions manifest before your very eyes!
The other night I dreamed I was visited by someone with a very important message. Every time this messenger started *talking*--the messenger did not use its mouth to speak, but transmitted a frequency that I understood was mine to receive-- I only picked up static. The messenger changed frequencies and this time the language was a high pitched emission and I knew in my being that this was an important message, but I just was not tuning in and couldn’t process.
Sensing my frustration, the messenger *tuned down* and spoke in human (i.e. words from the mouth) clearly enough to say, "you are dehydrated. you will not be able to receive my message unless you re-hydrate."
I awoke from this dream so very thirsty! Over the past week I have been drinking so much water, tea, juice, and other re-hydrating beverages and still just can not get enough!
By the way, the real message was not lost on me…I understand this dream very clearly, and my Guides were telling me that I need to attune myself to the energies of water!
In metaphysical teachings, water is associated with intuition, healing and emotion. I find it no coincidence –and extremely telling of our *soul* purpose--that as spiritual creatures having a physical experience, our bodies are made mostly of water! Indeed, water is the physica
l manifestation of these spiritual
Our very ancient, primal *ancestors* originated in the sea, and even in utero, our bodies develop in fluid—and that fluid carries us into this physical realm. The human body is approximately 70% water, and requires proper hydration for optimal functioning—and that’s just for the basic human survival functions such as organs, metabolism, regeneration, etc... So you can imagine if you are dehydrated, your spirit leeches any water it can in order to continue its physical existence. Your SOUL needs a BODY in order to live out its purpose on this plane! Once you have awakened to your soul’s purpose, you may find yourself also craving water and other beverages that help you maintain proper hydration levels! Here are a few I have enjoyed, that you may also want to try! Water:
goes without saying! H2O is the number one beverage for boosting your intuition! Health experts recommend drinking half your body weight in ounces per day, but I find I need more than that to maintain my intuitive channels—especially if I am channeling! Tea:
I have been enjoying a blend called Northern Blue Star from a local tea house, The Divine Lotus Tea Company
. This blend is a mix of hibiscus, blueberry, blue malva, orange peel, lemon verbena, rose hips and rooibos—and it is delicious! Hibiscus is very sensual, and because I often receive intuitive hits through bodily sensations, I enjoy its ability to bring me back into my body. Pomegranate Juice:
I don’t normally drink juice in quantities—just never appealed to me—but lately I am loving the taste of pomegranate juice! It is said pomegranate juice contains 3x more antioxidants than a glass of red wine or green tea, and the fact that it is caffeine and alcohol free means it does not contribute to dehydration, like those two substances are known to do. I used to drink a glass of red wine every night for its antioxidant benefits (among others..*wink*) but have found it just does not appeal to me like it used to. Pomegranate is the perfect replacement!
Oh, and I also want to mention that drinking hydrating beverages is not the only way to attune yourself to the energies of water…there are many other ways, including water meditations, swimming and bathing. If you have a particular recommendation or question about attuning yourself to good old H2O, please share in the comments below! I look forward to reading what you have to share!
I LOVE my job! I enjoy the freedoms of owning my own holistic life coaching practice; in balancing my needs between family and business; the flexibility of managing my own schedule; and I am blessed every day with the opportunities to dream and create! Every day, I get to dream and scheme, laugh and share, heal and help others! I just love, love, love working with people, my clients—YOU---who have varied and interesting stories to share!
And sometimes I feel like a child with an exciting secret—I get so giddy! One of the greatest things about my job is that YOU teach me something new every single day! Sometimes I feel like I’M the one who really benefits from our sessions! I wonder if my clients really know how happy they make me, how much THEY teach ME, how much sheer delight I get from our sessions, sharing and healing and opening to each other!
Which is why I am kind of scared and kind of nervous to share the following news…
See, here’s the deal…over the past nine months, I have experienced a few major life events—my father was diagnosed and lost his battle with cancer; my daughter moved out of my house and in with her father; and I turned 40! To help me cope with these transitions, I have been seeing a therapist who has charged me with the task of completing a “life timeline.” It is not an easy exercise to do, as it has brought up all sorts of painful memories---and loads of revelations!
These revelations are causing major energetic shifts for me! I always coach my clients to be gentle on themselves when they undergo such shifts, and I have to treat myself with my own advice. With the amount of shifts I am going through, I need time to fully integrate the changes and space to release all that I no longer wish to carry.
I am not sharing this for sympathy, or any kind of reaction, actually. I am sharing only because it helps to put into context the kinds of things I am meditating on lately…I believe that every experience I have had has prepared me for this crucial moment. I believe I chose to incarnate on this plane, I chose which path my life would take and the experiences I would have. I hold a vision that my experiences are not only for me to learn by, but for others too. I chose to incarnate an Aquarian, the water bearer---sharing information with all of humanity.
Lately I’m being called to focus my energies on writing my book. I actually have three of them started (THREE!) and I feel compelled at this time to finish them. And so, the best thing about my job is that I get to choose how to spend my time and energies. I have given this considerable thought, but realize that life really is too short. My ideas, my story, won't help anyone if they remain in my head! I must be the Water-bearer, and pour out these stories as if they were water for the thirsty! The mantra of late is loud and clear, "WRITE THE BOOK!"
I do intend to honor my commitments of producing Tele Classes—I have quite a few already planned throughout the year—and I will continue working on my side project, Magickal Harvest, but come March 1, 2013, I will not be accepting client appointments until further notice.
You wanna' know what else I really LOVE? I LOVE that I am the master of my own destiny! I am elated that I don’t have to do the “daily grind” of the 9-5 office life, under artificial lights, subject to quarterly reviews. I love that I can wake up one day, listen to my heart and know that I have the support of people who get it!
Because I know that while right now seems scary for me to step into, in the end, it will be so worth it!
GRATITUDE SYNERGISTIC BLEND
Uplifting, smart and rich. Primarily used in aromatherapy to increase joy and sharpen the mind, is powerfully protective, both magically and physically. Energetically speaking, this aroma can help you to make wise decisions, and because it helps to increase abundance, I am using it as my primary scent in this blend.
Frankincense-- 10 drops
Used in ancient temples as an offering to the gods. I chose this aroma because it is a symbol of my faith, and I offer it to you.
Uplifting and bright. This citrusy scent cleanses a space of negativity and is often used to banish depression.
Another scent that was an offering to the gods. This scent harnesses the power of the now in that it aids in calming your fears or doubts about the future.
Sambac blooms in evening, grandiflorum blooms in the morning. Both are considered aphrodisiacs but grandiflorum is smooth, extremely intense floral smell that is both sweet and lingering.
I chose this scent as a reminder of the sweetness of life. Jasmine absolute is used to treat depression, insomnia, nervous tension and infertility. Its aroma is soothing and calming and can bring about a restful state to those who are suffering from emotional trauma. There are different kinds of jasmine, and it can be a bit pricey, so use ylang ylang as a suitable sub.
Basil has a warm slightly spicy slightly sweet, uplifting aroma and I chose it because of its association with prosperity. Also, the leaves of basil look like hearts and this herb has long been used in love magic. Ideal for a gratitude blend!
Black Pepper--2 drops
Pepper is powerfully protective and kicks everything up a notch!
Rose quartz chip, citrine chip-1 small chip each
Rose quartz for unconditional love and citrine to keep energetically “fresh”
Combine all oils in a clean glass bottle as you consider living with an attitude of gratitude and how you have a thankful heart.
This makes a synergistic blend which you can then choose to add vodka (80 proof or higher), distilled water or a carrier oil depending on your desire to create either a spray or oil. I recommend you let this synergy blend sit for a few hours before adding to anything else, as the scents will meld together and grow more powerful.
Thank you for being you! Namaste!
What would you do if you knew you could not fail?
Failure, in our culture, is the ultimate curse word! To fail is to not meet up to expectations (either your own or others'). It places you lower on the rungs of the ladder to success, ostracizes you as "incapable." We think of failure as a bad thing. We think of it as the most devastating thing that we could ever endure. We think of it as an END to a dream.
…yadda, yadda, yadda…
Well, F@*$ this! I think we have the wrong mindset about “failure.” What if, instead of thinking this way, we thought of failure as an inevitable part of the process to achieving that dream? Instead of it being a matter of devastation, it was simply a wrong turn on this journey?
A few years ago I started an online business, selling vintage collectibles and antiques. I have long been a collector of unusual things that “spoke” to me. Literally, I can feel the stories of old objects and if something felt right, and I liked its story, I would keep it. One day I decided to clear the clutter from my space. Knowing that everything is energy, I felt like transferring my stuff for a different kind of energy—money.
Now, as far as the ins and outs of running an online business-- I had no clue! But I didn’t think it could be that hard. I created my website, I listed a few things at really low prices—once they flew off my shelves, I realized that just maybe the prices were a bit too low. I bumped up the prices a bit and found they were still flying off the shelves. I began to more thoroughly research what I had and found that things I had been selling could have sold for three times that amount.
Failure? Perhaps some would see it this way. In fact, every time I recount this story, someone inevitably proclaims, “FAIL!” But I prefer to view it differently. This “failure” was really the cost of my education. I have since learned that it pays to perform due diligence and thoroughly research before listing.
In retrospect, once I decided to take action, there was no such thing as failure--only experiences, consequences and results. This is the Principle of Cause and Effect at play. Every action has a reaction. Failure is just one effect.
My point is this: if you are unsure of HOW to get there, don’t sweat it! Once you decide to take action, you have to trust that the Universe conspires to give you what you need at the moment you need it! Trusting that everything happens for a reason develops an inner spirit of un-stop-ability! Trusting in this process allows you to approach everything with a solution-oriented mindset.
Most importantly, learn from it! Don’t let it eat you! Regroup, figure out a plan B and move on! Many people take this initial unmet expectation as a cue to give up and never learn from it. This is where YOU can rise above and shine!
So what if it didn’t go as you expected it to!? So what if you did not meet your deadline, or make the money you wanted? So what, so what, so what?? Ask yourself instead, “What have I learned?” “What can I do differently?” “What is the benefit here?” And most importantly, “What has this taught me about myself?” If you view failure as a learning experience, you soon see that every failure is really a new possibility!
Have a plan, take action, be flexible and learn from it! You can label it whatever you want, but in my experience, failure is just another word for possibility. By choosing to look at it this way, I have grown tremendously! I have also learned that building possibility into my plan of action for achieving my BIG DREAM-- gets me there!
Me and my daughter enjoying a hearty Group Belly Laugh at a laughter session!
I was rushing the other day to get to our Lughnasadh celebration and it seemed like nothing was going right. I left a basket of food on the counter and didn't realize it until we arrived to the party. So I drove back to the house to get it. The boys followed me into the house and I asked one of them to carry it out to the car while I checked to make sure I had everything else. He passed it off to his brother, and unbeknownst to me, the basket was left on the porch.
So, we were half way to our destination--again!--when they remembered their mistake. I breathed a deep sigh, turned on the blinker and pulled the car to the side of the road, erupting in a fit of laughter. Both boys looked at me like I was insane, but it helped me to release my frustration!
When things don’t go as we wish, we are often advised to just go with the flow. But for many of us, that is hard to do! In my laughter yoga teacher training, I learned about something that can help. It is the concept of the “inner spirit of laughter.”
The inner spirit of laughter is about so much more than just laughing or just yoga--the inner spirit of laughter is a state of mind that allows one the ability to stay positive when everything seems challenging. It can improve physical health and help to release negative thoughts. From my own experience and from listening to others, I know that negative thoughts can crystalize and take physical form! So, when things don’t go your way, you can either laugh or cry. I have found that laughing is the path of least resistance and offers better outcomes!
As a sales manager, I was in a state of constant worry--I was constantly stressed about money and image and meeting goals and yet, everything that I was afraid of came true. It is no secret that I have met my own extreme challenges in life, including the fact that I lost my job, my house, my car, and my family went through a devastating separation. In the process, my children and I became homeless, living with kind family members. I found myself literally starting over at the bottom with nothing but each other.
After I realized my worst fears, I began to feel extreme guilt. Fear and guilt are two the two most paralyzing emotions anyone can experience because they keep you mired in murky muck, unable to move forward in life. Although I started to rebuild my life, I was still scared and harboring feelings of guilt. I sought a therapist to help me through this time of insecurity. It was after all of this happened that I found laughter yoga, and it was timely for me, occurring as if on cue. If I had not gone through these extreme challenges, I wouldn’t have taken my training in laughter yoga as seriously as I have.
You see, laughter yoga helped me to re-train myself to laugh for no reason. For me, it was a remembering of who I am. As a child, my nickname was Giggles because I would and could laugh at anything and had a happy-go-lucky attitude of grace (but that is another blog post!) I remembered with laughter yoga that when you find yourself in a challenging situation, if you can laugh openly, for no reason at all, you will trigger your mind to overcome difficult situations more easily.
Laughter yoga goes beyond laughter. It trains your body & mind to respond to challenges in a more productive manner. I remember how, before laughter yoga, I lived in a constant state of lack and scarcity, and because it was the core of my subconscious mind at the time, I actually manifested loss of everything for myself. I am of the belief that your thought forms create your physical reality and it is important to watch what you think about. Laughter yoga has helped me to retrain my mind and body to respond differently to negative thoughts and feelings. My training in laughter yoga has opened up channels for me to express my fears in a productive way, allowing me to face them head on and deal with them, instead of burying them and worrying about them all the time.
The surprise in all of this is that cultivating an inner spirit of laughter helped me to reconnect to my spiritual side. Yoga is Sanskrit for “to connect,” and in context, means to connect to the Higher Self. When we are connected to our Higher Self, things flow more easily in our lives! But yoga can also connect us to others and build community. When you laugh you raise your own vibration and others pick up on it—it is contagious and infectious and you soon begin to see that the Inner Spirit of Laughter promotes community building. The exercises I teach in a laughing session bring us to that mental state of appreciation because this is the space in which we connect with others, and they are really profound and life changing.
With laughter, I have gone from an attitude based on fear and ego to one of appreciation and gratitude. I find my days starting a little brighter, waking every morning and feeling appreciation for every little thing. The inner spirit of laughter has helped me to recognize the little things that make life a big deal!
Whenever you find yourself in a challenging situation, just laugh! I would LOVE to teach you how!
So here it is, me planning workshops on de-cluttering and space clearing for energetic healing, and just the other night, I was made painfully aware of my emotional attachment to an object, my piano. This piano sits in my open living room, host to the family and ancestor photos, and has, of late become the entry way catch all. The lid is closed, covering the well-loved ivory keys, and it makes a perfect tray for all those things we carry in from our outings, i.e. sunglass, car keys, purses.
Barry and I were discussing the upcoming cleansing and decluttering we want to perform on our house, to open up our space for new and clear energy to enter into our lives and help us with our manifestation goals for the coming year. Then he mentioned that he wanted to get rid of the piano. "First," he said, "no one ever plays it anymore, and it just seems to be a magnet for all kinds of clutter. Being that it sits in the open floor plan, it contributes to a messy looking front room."
I started to tear up. I felt a lump swell in my throat and tears began streaming down my cheeks. I didn’t understand why I became so emotional about this, because the truth is that he was right. The piano no longer serves its function, and we really needed to have this discussion. But I couldn’t talk. All I could think about was the day I found the piano and how proud I was to be able to bring it home.
The piano was, for me, a sign of my independence. My first marriage ended in a divorce, and I went through a really tough time wondering if I would ever see my way through to financial comfort again. It took me over two years to feel like I was back on top and was ready to buy a house. My own house. But I had no furniture and the house was a one hundred year old home that just called for furniture to match its character. The first antiques dealer I stopped at had this beautiful piano sitting in the back corner. I played my own version of Chopsticks and was immediately hooked. I bought it and soon, my kids were plinking and plunking on the keys, filling our new home with the charming (and off-key) sounds of childhood piano lessons. It was something the entire family enjoyed, and that made my purchase even more special to me. Not only did the piano represent my independence as a single mom, but I was so proud and happy to be able to provide my children with this “frivolous” opportunity for enrichment.
That was nearly ten years ago and I never shared this story with Barry. It never seemed like I needed to. When I moved in with him, I came with my furniture, including the piano--and there was a perfect wall to place it against and that was that. Unfortunately, since I moved in here, the piano is very rarely played. My oldest two daughters have moved out of the house (they are 22 and 20), and no longer play the piano anyway. The other kids are interested in other instruments. Come to think of it, the piano has not been tuned since I moved in.
But I never once considered getting rid of the piano. It never crossed my mind.
When faced with this reality, it became clear to me that I had been hanging on to this piece of furniture for impractical reasons. I moved it across the country, and then again in three different houses over the last ten years. But I am just now re-examining my feelings associated with it. Yes, I am way too emotionally attached to this piece. I sure was not expecting the emotional response I experienced. As I map out my plan for de-cluttering the house, I need to reconsider how the piano contributes to the perpetual "virtual" mess we wish to do away with.
But for now, during the holidays, I will open the lid on the keys, and hopefully someone will be inspired to tickle the keys and fill the house with the sounds of holiday cheer.