Recently I was inspired by this:
Jada Pinkett Smith's facebook page, living like "Tomorrow is not promised."
What a stark contrast to the usual hedonist notion of "live like there is no tomorrow." Reminds me of what I tell my clients: "Don't just live like there is no tomorrow. LOVE like there is no tomorrow!"
This Universe is thread together by the stories that we tell, and everyone enjoys a brilliant Love Story. I think it speaks to the soul’s number one desire-- to be loved.
Love is not something we DO. Love is who we ARE, and in this world of crazy-ass ADD distractions, it is easy to forget this basic truth.
LIVING like there is no tomorrow used to imply succumbing to hedonist pleasures. But I like the notion of LOVING like there is no tomorrow for true happiness. In the end, it is not how much money or cars or toys or possessions you have. These are external things that bring fleeting pleasure and don’t sustain happiness. The only thing that is real, is LOVE.
Sure get out and enjoy the sunsets. Read a good book. Take care of your body. And if you wish to be loved, how do you wish to be loved? Be that. Do that. If you are waiting for someone—your twin flame, your soul mate—BE your twin flame. BE your soul mate.
Always kiss goodnight! Don’t hold grudges! Hold your loved ones instead! What do you get out of toeing the ground when it comes to silly-nilly arguments with your loved ones? The satisfaction of being….right? And even if you are right, does this keep you warm at night? Does it feel as good as genuine hugs and kisses from your loved ones? If you love them, gracefully bow out and let them have this one.
Radical forgiveness. Life got less complicated when I started practicing radical forgiveness. Kind of in line with not holding grudges, except this one is not about them, but all about you. I believe that holding grudges kept us safe from harm back in our caveman days, alerting us to possible danger of those who intended future harm based on their past behavior. But the truth is that in this day and age of enlightenment, the best way for you to get over your grudge is to forgive.
Forgiveness frees your heart and mind from the shackles that chain you to outdated, ego-centered paradigms. Every night before you go to bed, forgive someone who has hurt you during the day. If no one has, think of someone from your past whom you may not have forgiven yet. I believe it is best to assume everyone operates from their best intentions. So, visualize them in their light, and just for sake of feeling better, assume that they are operating from their own highest and best self. Even if they have hurt you, it is not a reflection of their true self. You have to assume that at all times, everyone is doing their best, with what they know, with the resources available to them.
LOVE YOUR BODY! Take a moment right now to stop and express gratitude for all that your body does for you! What an amazing machine! If you are healthy, it carries you from day to day, pumping blood, oxygen and prana throughout without you having to think about it. If you are not healthy, you may have to think about it…but the truth of the matter is that your body works hard to make sure your soul has the experience it intended when YOU (Big You) decided to incarnate in this physical reality. The least you can do is to show it some nurturing care. Your soul needs your body to carry out its mission and if you are not taking care of your physical needs, you are missing the point of your spiritual purpose! Show some love by bathing daily, exercise and eating wholesome food choices. Breath work is so important for vitality and enjoying time outdoors reconnects you to your natural self!
Love your mind! Learn something new every day! If you disagree with something, try to see the other side. If nothing else, at least you will know what the other side is thinking and will be more informed when it comes time to (intelligently) express why you disagree with a particular *thing.* Debate is lovable. Arguing is steeped in lower vibrations and not healthy. Learn how to have a healthy debate so that you can love like there is no tomorrow!
TELL THEM YOU LOVE THEM! Never miss an opportunity to tell your loved ones that you love them! Goes without saying. But actions speak louder than words and to that end, never miss an opportunity to SHOW your loved ones that you love them! Paying attention to them when they are in the room with you, doing things that let them know you listen and care like small tokens of affection, giving space when needed, playing their favorite country songs when you really want to listen rock and roll…these small investments bring massive return in your relationship love tanks.
And I want to leave by quoting my favorite band ever:
“In the end the love you take is equal to the love you make.”~Beatles
You know how to do this! it is simply a matter of remembering the process. Before you incarnated into this physical realm/reality, your soul went through the very same process in which YOU obvserved every single possible outcome for this lifetime, and (and here's the really cool thing about this) because your soul was comfortable with each and every possible outcome, you can rest easy that there are no wrong choices. whatever you choose to do is the correct choice. so then, why do we have the possibilities if there are no wrong choices? because part of your purpose is to expand/learn/grow...and you do this through feeling into your choices. So, using the power of creative imagination it's time to get to feeling, already!
1) Breath and connect to your heart center--the source of your life's eternal truth.
2) As you make that connection, do so with the intention of simply observing your current situation. Call up the details--just the facts--and reserve any judgement for later.
3) As you think about the situation at hand, begin to visualize the possible outcomes. Notice how you are feeling as you ponder each choice. What are your emotions like. What physical sensations are you noticing? Does this choice make you feel good or out of sorts? Observe how energized (or not) you feel in the moment of making the choice and then, how you feel the next day...in two years from now...ten years and so on? Once you've felt the truth of that choice, move on to the next path and feel out that possibility--notice again how you feel as you step out in this direction, what emotions come up today? Tomorrow? Next year? How does it make your body feel? Your mind?
4) As you navigate through this path of your eternal truth, you will notice that one pathway feels more in alignment than all the others. If you are not noticing this, it simply means you have not felt fully into the wide and expansive wholehearted truth of your being. Breathe here and return your awareness to the situation at hand and ask yourself, "what else is possible?"
5) Once you FEEL your Truth, follow that energy. You have made your choice, and now the best thing you can do is to *go with that flow* and let your actions line up with that energy to watch your heartfelt-intentions manifest before your very eyes!
Me and my daughter enjoying a hearty Group Belly Laugh at a laughter session!
I was rushing the other day to get to our Lughnasadh celebration and it seemed like nothing was going right. I left a basket of food on the counter and didn't realize it until we arrived to the party. So I drove back to the house to get it. The boys followed me into the house and I asked one of them to carry it out to the car while I checked to make sure I had everything else. He passed it off to his brother, and unbeknownst to me, the basket was left on the porch.
So, we were half way to our destination--again!--when they remembered their mistake. I breathed a deep sigh, turned on the blinker and pulled the car to the side of the road, erupting in a fit of laughter. Both boys looked at me like I was insane, but it helped me to release my frustration!
When things don’t go as we wish, we are often advised to just go with the flow. But for many of us, that is hard to do! In my laughter yoga teacher training, I learned about something that can help. It is the concept of the “inner spirit of laughter.”
The inner spirit of laughter is about so much more than just laughing or just yoga--the inner spirit of laughter is a state of mind that allows one the ability to stay positive when everything seems challenging. It can improve physical health and help to release negative thoughts. From my own experience and from listening to others, I know that negative thoughts can crystalize and take physical form! So, when things don’t go your way, you can either laugh or cry. I have found that laughing is the path of least resistance and offers better outcomes!
As a sales manager, I was in a state of constant worry--I was constantly stressed about money and image and meeting goals and yet, everything that I was afraid of came true. It is no secret that I have met my own extreme challenges in life, including the fact that I lost my job, my house, my car, and my family went through a devastating separation. In the process, my children and I became homeless, living with kind family members. I found myself literally starting over at the bottom with nothing but each other.
After I realized my worst fears, I began to feel extreme guilt. Fear and guilt are two the two most paralyzing emotions anyone can experience because they keep you mired in murky muck, unable to move forward in life. Although I started to rebuild my life, I was still scared and harboring feelings of guilt. I sought a therapist to help me through this time of insecurity. It was after all of this happened that I found laughter yoga, and it was timely for me, occurring as if on cue. If I had not gone through these extreme challenges, I wouldn’t have taken my training in laughter yoga as seriously as I have.
You see, laughter yoga helped me to re-train myself to laugh for no reason. For me, it was a remembering of who I am. As a child, my nickname was Giggles because I would and could laugh at anything and had a happy-go-lucky attitude of grace (but that is another blog post!) I remembered with laughter yoga that when you find yourself in a challenging situation, if you can laugh openly, for no reason at all, you will trigger your mind to overcome difficult situations more easily.
Laughter yoga goes beyond laughter. It trains your body & mind to respond to challenges in a more productive manner. I remember how, before laughter yoga, I lived in a constant state of lack and scarcity, and because it was the core of my subconscious mind at the time, I actually manifested loss of everything for myself. I am of the belief that your thought forms create your physical reality and it is important to watch what you think about. Laughter yoga has helped me to retrain my mind and body to respond differently to negative thoughts and feelings. My training in laughter yoga has opened up channels for me to express my fears in a productive way, allowing me to face them head on and deal with them, instead of burying them and worrying about them all the time.
The surprise in all of this is that cultivating an inner spirit of laughter helped me to reconnect to my spiritual side. Yoga is Sanskrit for “to connect,” and in context, means to connect to the Higher Self. When we are connected to our Higher Self, things flow more easily in our lives! But yoga can also connect us to others and build community. When you laugh you raise your own vibration and others pick up on it—it is contagious and infectious and you soon begin to see that the Inner Spirit of Laughter promotes community building. The exercises I teach in a laughing session bring us to that mental state of appreciation because this is the space in which we connect with others, and they are really profound and life changing.
With laughter, I have gone from an attitude based on fear and ego to one of appreciation and gratitude. I find my days starting a little brighter, waking every morning and feeling appreciation for every little thing. The inner spirit of laughter has helped me to recognize the little things that make life a big deal!
Whenever you find yourself in a challenging situation, just laugh! I would LOVE to teach you how!
I was interviewed by the lovely and charming Joanna Devoe for her KickAss Witch
blog and got to explain a little bit more about what I do! She has interviewed some pretty amazing and brilliantly talented women and I am honored to be included in her list of inspiring and KickAss Witches! Lol! Check it out!